J&J Chats: Should I come out to My Homophobic Parents?

July 21, 2020.Reading time 9 minutes.

The title states, J and J Chats. Two text message bubbles follow. The first states, Should I come out to my homophobic parents? The second bubble displays 3 typing dots.

I live with my homophobic parents and I don’t know what will happen if I come out as bi, but it hurts to hear what they say about gay people. I hate that they think I’m a completely different person that who I really am. I guess it doesn’t make sense for me to come […]

J&J Chats: Dealing with aggressive homophobia in person

February 25, 2020.Reading time 8 minutes.

The title states, J and J chats, aggressive homophobia in person.

Advice seeker has an aggressive homophobic experience while holding hands with her girlfriend. Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Read all chats here. Read a similar chat about “bisexual or lesbian” here. Have you ever experienced homophobic people reacting to you kissing or […]

J&J Chats: I might be a lesbian

February 20, 2020.Reading time 18 minutes.

The title says J and J chats. I was bisexual, but now I think I could be a lesbian.

Advice seeker tries to come to terms with being a lesbian, which is difficult due to some intersectionality with regards to race. Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Read all chats here. Read a similar chat about “bisexual or lesbian” here. […]

J&J Chats: Bisexual or lesbian? Plus sexism.

December 20, 2019.Reading time 18 minutes.

The title reads, J and J chats, bisexual or lesbian? plus sexism.

Anonymous advice-seeker questions their identity and wonders if their thoughts about men are sexist. (Read all chats here.)

J&J Chat: Helping a long-distance partner through a hard time

October 29, 2019.Reading time 24 minutes.

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Welcome back to J&J Chats where J (me, Jess) and J (my girlfriend, Jas) offer unprofessional advice. Today’s J&J Chat is sponsored by my friend and patron, Hope. TW for mentions of feeling suicidal.

J&J Chats #7: From needing support to forming friendships

July 8, 2019.Reading time 31 minutes.

J and J Chats. From needing support to forming friendships.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: Making online relationships rooted in a need for support develop into strong and authentic relationships.

J&J Chats: Coming out later in the relationship

July 2, 2019.Reading time 9 minutes.

The title image states, J and J chats, coming out later in the relationship.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: A lesbian coming out later as bisexual in a relationship or vice versa.

J&J Chats: Confessing an ex-crush

July 1, 2019.Reading time 8 minutes.

The title states, J and J chats, confessiong an ex crush.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: Telling an old crush that you used to have a crush on them.

J&J Chats: Biphobia and lesbophobia in relationships

June 29, 2019.Reading time 14 minutes.

the title image states, J and J chats, biphobia and lesbophobia in relationships.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: Lesbians who refuse to date bisexuals and bisexuals who refuse to date lesbians.

J&J Chats: Texting through bpd arguments

June 28, 2019.Reading time 13 minutes.

the title image states, J and J chats. texting through bpd arguments.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: Should you work through a bad BPD moment via text?