Changing my Gender Marker in Michigan

February 1, 2023.Reading time 11 minutes.

Went to get a new ID, decided to change my gender marker that day. Michigan makes it that easy! Getting a New Michigan ID In Michigan, you need a current, valid driver’s license or state ID to apply for a marriage license. I’m not a driver due to anxiety and overstimulation. So, I’ve never held […]

Finding a Queer Therapist

May 20, 2021.Reading time 12 minutes.

A polaroid photo shows two people sitting on a couch with their hands crossed. Writing on the polaroid states, Mental Health Month. Beside the photo, the title states, Finding a Queer Therapist.

At the start of my therapist search, I knew right away I wanted a queer therapist. But finding one proved much more difficult than I expected. In this blog, I outline why I wanted a queer therapist and how I found one. My Mental Health History I’ve never had a queer therapist before. Never even […]

Lesbians and Their Laptops: The Complexities of Existing as a Lesbian in the Balkan

April 30, 2021.Reading time 12 minutes.

Nonbinary lesbian guest writer, Boja, shares how their culture shaped their coming out experience.

How I Met My Girlfriend – Part 1 – The Spark Starter

March 2, 2018.Reading time 6 minutes.

There are two illustrated Cards Against Humanity cards. The lead card states, cancel all my meetings. We've got a situation with BLANK that requires my immediate attention. The played card states, gay feelings and a U-Haul.

Catch up on with How I Met My Girlfriend on the chapter list. Sparking the Flame So Jas followed me back, but I quickly realized that it wasn’t just about the follow back anymore. I wanted to know her more than reading her posts. I wanted her to tell me about things, rather than her […]

How I Met My Girlfriend – Prologue – The Tumblr Power Struggle

February 12, 2018.Reading time 6 minutes.

An illustration mocks a Tumblr dashboard. A post on the dashboard states, betchilds followed you! Hashtag so rad!

This is the start of how I met my partner and the start of our US to UK long-distance relationship: tumblr.

Coming Out to Myself

December 19, 2017.Reading time 5 minutes.

An illustrated person with long, wavy orange hair looks at themself in the mirror and smiles.

Coming out to myself was a long, subconscious process that didn’t reach reality until one, critical moment.

Gay Signs: An Adolescence that I Never Noticed

October 31, 2017.Reading time 4 minutes.

There are two signs as follows. The first sign states, One Way, and points to the second sign. The second sign states, Gayville, 2 miles, and has a rainbow on it.

Here’s a full list of all the things that should’ve made being gay not a surprise to me.

Coming Out to my Parents (via Email while I Was Spending 2 Months with my GF)

October 11, 2017.Reading time 18 minutes.

I came out to my parents in an email days after the Orland Pulse shooting that I sent while I was spending 2 months abroad with my girlfriend.

Internalized Homophobia: I hope I never Fall in Love with a Girl

October 2, 2017.Reading time 7 minutes.

An illustration depicts two women kissing. Text beside the illustration states, every girl has women she looks up to.

You don’t know exactly who you are; you just know something feels different for you. And you wonder if you can spend your whole life silenced by your internalized homophobia.

My Friend Knew I was Gay Before I Was Ready To Come Out

September 20, 2017.Reading time 8 minutes.

I Wasn’t Ready to Come Out to Myself as Gay It was the second semester of my freshman year in college, the first time on my own. This was not a good time in my life. The introvert in me formed a shell of isolation, growing thicker by the day. I went to class, I […]