HIMMGF–Part 23–Friendsgiving

March 31, 2020.Reading time 12 minutes.

The image states, H I M M G F 23, friendsgiving.

Catch up on my British girlfriend’s recent trip visit to me in America! Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here. The weekend after Real Thanksgiving welcomed the new and improved Friendsgiving. The guest list included myself, Jas, my brother, my sister, her boyfriend, her boyfriend’s brother (both good friends of mine), our cousin, and […]

LGBTQ Spotlight: Support an upcoming lesbian film

March 3, 2020.Reading time 3 minutes.

A T V sketch states, Found Family, on the screen. The title of the image states, l g b t q spotlight, lesbian film by lesbian director.

In just a few days, lesbian filmmaker Esmée Lavalette begins production for her short film, “Found Family.” The film follows the protagonist, Elyse, and the challenges that come with navigating her lesbian identity in her homophobic family and meeting her long-distance girlfriend for the first time. Esmée Lavalette is a Dutch native who acquired both […]

J&J Chats: Dealing with aggressive homophobia in person

February 25, 2020.Reading time 8 minutes.

The title states, J and J chats, aggressive homophobia in person.

Advice seeker has an aggressive homophobic experience while holding hands with her girlfriend. Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Read all chats here. Read a similar chat about “bisexual or lesbian” here. Have you ever experienced homophobic people reacting to you kissing or […]

J&J Chats: I might be a lesbian

February 20, 2020.Reading time 18 minutes.

The title says J and J chats. I was bisexual, but now I think I could be a lesbian.

Advice seeker tries to come to terms with being a lesbian, which is difficult due to some intersectionality with regards to race. Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Read all chats here. Read a similar chat about “bisexual or lesbian” here. […]

HIMMGF 22: Coffee and Conflicts

February 18, 2020.Reading time 14 minutes.

This started as a Christmas post and ended with existential realizations. Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here. Our second Christmas together unfolded how I imagined in most ways. And it first started like every morning, the mere waking up together—something that started the day with love for 69 consecutive mornings. (Yes, 69, […]

HIMMGF: How I miss my girlfriend

January 31, 2020.Reading time 14 minutes.

Hi gang this post will be sad. Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here. Jasmin is back at her home in the UK, and the days have been dragging since. We video chatted the day her plane landed—Jan 26th–and overnight the space between us re-emerged. The sound of the Skype ring struck an […]

Hopeless Changes Over Time: A Halsey Concert Essay

January 16, 2020.Reading time 36 minutes.

The title states, Hopeless Changes Over Time.

The Prologue I spent the whole summer of 2017 trying to convince myself I’d survive the year without attending Halsey’s Hopeless Fountain Kingdom concert in Detroit. After a few months traveling the States with my girlfriend, I reserved my savings for student loan backup payments between paychecks. I couldn’t justify dipping into the savings for […]