J&J Chat: Helping a long-distance partner through a hard time

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Welcome back to J&J Chats where J (me, Jess) and J (my girlfriend, Jas) offer unprofessional advice. Today’s J&J Chat is sponsored by my friend and patron, Hope. TW for mentions of feeling suicidal.

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5 Ways to Better Communicate During a Conflict with Someone with BPD

A frowning face is divided in half. One half has a thought bubble, one half has a speech bubble. The thought bubble states, I know you're leaving me. The speech bubble states, I'm leaving you first.

Communicating when you’re having a conflict with someone with BPD can be very difficult and often has a “things get worse before they get better” outcome. This post outlines 5 practical steps and tools to strengthen your ability to communicate effectively during a conflict.

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5 Ways to Better Reassure Someone with BPD

A frowning face has a speech bubble and a thought bubble. The speech bubble states, Do you love me? The thought bubble states, i know you hate me.

Reassuring someone with BPD can sometimes be quite difficult, but it is extremely necessary. Here are five clear and practical steps you can take to better the way you reassure someone with BPD.

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