Changing my Gender Marker in Michigan

February 1, 2023.Reading time 11 minutes.

Went to get a new ID, decided to change my gender marker that day. Michigan makes it that easy! Getting a New Michigan ID In Michigan, you need a current, valid driver’s license or state ID to apply for a marriage license. I’m not a driver due to anxiety and overstimulation. So, I’ve never held […]

What Does Sapphic Mean?

March 11, 2021.Reading time 9 minutes.

A flag is divided into 3 equal horizontal parts. The parts are top to bottom as follows. Pink, white, pink. The white part has two purple flowers with green leaves. Beside the flag, the image asks, what does sapphic mean?

Though the word “sapphic” is likely well-understood in many LGBTQ+ circles (mostly likely sapphic ones), there’s still a lot of confusion around the word. Is it a vibe? Is it a label? Who does it include? Where does it apply? As a core team member for Sapphic Writers, I’ve encountered both personal and professional confusion […]

How to Love Yourself: A self-love guide of queer identity navigation

February 11, 2021.Reading time 10 minutes.

Loving yourself as you realize you aren’t straight can be tough. Take these quick lessons and affirmations with you as you navigate a new, queer identity.

LGBT Book Review: Gender–Your Guide by Dr Lee Airton

January 21, 2021.Reading time 5 minutes.

A book title states, gender, your guide, by lee airton, P H D.

Welcome to another LGBT book review! All reviews touch on genre/plot, tropes (if any), quality of LGBT content, and avoid most spoilers. Catch up on my last book review of Moonkcakes by Wendy Xu and Suzanne Walker. You can find all LGBT book reviews here. This review will run slightly differently, as some categories are not […]

Trans people and their laptops: “I am cishet” and other lies I keep telling

November 16, 2020.Reading time 10 minutes.

Welcome to AH&HL’s first annual guest-post series for Trans Awareness Week! The “Trans People and their Laptops” series aims to share a diverse set of trans stories, histories, and celebrations. This post is by nonbinary bisexual writer, Chiara (she/they/he). Read all identity posts. “Who am I today?”, that’s the question I ask myself every morning. You’d probably wonder […]

Am I nonbinary? A gender journey of euphoria and confusion

August 18, 2020.Reading time 43 minutes.

Over the course of several months, I never stopped asking myself, am I nonbinary? I wondered if I’d ever find a solid answer. Here’s the journey to my self-discovery, summarized with key points (or jokes, have fun distinguishing) at the end of each section to perhaps help other AFAB (assigned female at birth) nonbinary people […]

International Nonbinary Day: the case of my perceived womanhood and realized nonbinary identity by Chyna Parker

July 14, 2020.Reading time 11 minutes.

A rainbow sits beside the following title. The case of my perceived womanhood and realized nonbinary identity by Chyna Parker.

L&HL invites nonbinary writer, Chyna Parker, to share their experience on International Nonbinary Day.

Pride Project 2020: What Pride Means to Me – Representation in the Arts by J. A. Pascual

June 30, 2020.Reading time 9 minutes.

Welcome to Pride Project 2020! In this day-long series, a few queer writers share a moment of Pride on the last day of Pride Month. Read all the Pride Project posts (and identity posts) here. This post is by J.A. Pascual. The first time I came to the revelation that I wasn’t straight was when […]

Lesbian Visibility: Coming (out) of Age–Realising Who I Am

April 24, 2020.Reading time 12 minutes.

The title states, lesbian visibility week. Coming out of age, realising who I am.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Liv explores the intersectionality of lesbian, nonbinary, and ace identities. Read all identity posts here. It’s lesbian visibility week, and I’m planning on posting pictures on Twitter with my lesbian pride flag, […]

Lesbian Visibility: So Are You Actually a Lesbian?

April 25, 2019.Reading time 3 minutes.

A young woman with dark long hair stands in front of a graphic lesbian flag. The image states, lesbians and their laptops, visibility week, Courtney. So, are you actually a lesbian?

I got into my first proper relationship at 19 with a wonderful individual called Jasmine (Jimi for short). (By Courtney). Check out all Lesbian Visibility posts this week.