Pride Project 2020: What Pride Means to Me – Representation in the Arts by J. A. Pascual

June 30, 2020.Reading time 9 minutes.

Welcome to Pride Project 2020! In this day-long series, a few queer writers share a moment of Pride on the last day of Pride Month. Read all the Pride Project posts (and identity posts) here. This post is by J.A. Pascual. The first time I came to the revelation that I wasn’t straight was when […]

Hopeless Changes Over Time: A Halsey Concert Essay

January 16, 2020.Reading time 36 minutes.

The title states, Hopeless Changes Over Time.

The Prologue I spent the whole summer of 2017 trying to convince myself I’d survive the year without attending Halsey’s Hopeless Fountain Kingdom concert in Detroit. After a few months traveling the States with my girlfriend, I reserved my savings for student loan backup payments between paychecks. I couldn’t justify dipping into the savings for […]

Is tolerance enough?

November 19, 2019.Reading time 7 minutes.

The title states, Tolerance versus Acceptance. What is tolerance and is it enough?

This Saturday was International Day for Tolerance, dedicated by the United Nations. So, let’s talk tolerance, shall we?

How to Dress Gay (pt. 6): A style of inner peace

September 30, 2019.Reading time 10 minutes.

The title states, how to dress gay, part 6. A style of inner peace.

My personal style and the gay dress code finally find harmony and balance. (Part 6/6. Start from the beginning here.)

100th post on AL&HL

September 11, 2019.Reading time 14 minutes.

This is my 100Th post with A Lesbian and Her Laptop! Let the appreciation begin! (Don’t miss my button giveaway!)

Am I a Predator? Inside the mind of a touch-starved queer woman

July 18, 2019.Reading time 17 minutes.

Many queer girls grow up overthinking casual touches between them and other girls for fear of these interactions being misinterpreted, misunderstood, or turned against us as part of a gross stereotype.

Sharing experiences to build bridges: An open letter to LGBTQIA+ people on inter-community tension

July 3, 2019.Reading time 28 minutes.

There are 12 pride flags as follows. LGBTQ flag with people of color stripes, lesbian, gay, trans, agender, asexual, pansexual, bisexual, genderfluid, nonbinary, intersex, and genderqueer.

LGBTQIA+ people face a large number of issues both inside and outside of our community. Let’s work on unifying ourselves and facing challenges together by understanding each other’s unique experiences across our diverse subcommunities. It starts with listening and sharing, and I invite you all to be a part of this discussion.

J&J Chats: My boyfriend has homophobic friends

June 27, 2019.Reading time 10 minutes.

the image states, J and J chats, my boyfriend has homophobic friends.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: [Gay man] has a boyfriend who is friends with people who make homophobic comments.

Support LGBTQ Creatives: Lutalica (Band)

June 24, 2019.Reading time 4 minutes.

Welcome to the last series of Pride month! All this week, I will be sharing blog posts featuring different LGBTQ artists in a range of disciplines. Check out all the LGBTQ Creatives worthy of support here!

Identity Journey: Lesbian

June 21, 2019.Reading time 5 minutes.

A lesbian pride flag has 5 horizontal stripes as follows from top to bottom. Orange, light orange, white, light pink, dark pink.

The end of the journey! Read from the beginning here. (5/5.)

My Identity Journey: Queer (and sexual/romantic separation)

June 20, 2019.Reading time 5 minutes.

A lgbt pride flag is divided into 6 horizontal stripes as follows from top to bottom. Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple.

Part 4 of the journey. The home stretch! Read from the beginning here. (4/5.)

My Identity Journey: Bisexuality

June 18, 2019.Reading time 8 minutes.

A bisexual pride flag has 3 stripes divided horizontally. The middle stripe is thinner than the other 2 stripes. The stripe colors from top to bottom are as follows. Pink, purple, blue.

Here is the third leg of my identity journey. Read part one here. Read about my journey with asexuality here. (3/5).

My Identity Journey

June 14, 2019.Reading time 6 minutes.

There are 4 pride flags, as follows. Gay, lesbian, asexual, bisexual.

Questioning my identity was a long process through my late teenage years and continued up until fairly recently. And although I always expect to self-reflect on my identity, it’s no longer out of fear. Instead, it’s out of love and pride. (1/5).

May Review

June 4, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

Monthly reviews recaps blog post activity on “A Lesbian and Her Laptop,” LGBTQ+ content to look for, personal updates, and what’s coming up for the blog next month.

Lesbian Visibility: The (Sometimes Accurate) Lesbian Stereotypes

April 23, 2019.Reading time 7 minutes.

A biracial woman wearing a white tee shirt with doodled on boobs stands in front of a lesbian flag. The image states, lesbians and their laptops, visibility week, Jazz. The sometimes accurate lesbian stereotypes.

TITTIES!! Well now that I’ve got your attention let’s get to the real topic here, lesbian stereotypes! (By Jazz). Check out all Lesbian Visibility posts this week.

HIMMGF – Part 14 – J&J meet R&R and No Tomorrow Launch Party

December 11, 2018.Reading time 22 minutes.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to previous parts: Prologue | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12| 13

HIMMGF — Part 13 — The Great Return

November 12, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

An airline ticket states, D T W to L H R 2 point 0.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time I Came Out To My New Doctor

October 10, 2018.Reading time 16 minutes.

After avoiding the doctor’s office for years, I finally went and came out to him. (Note: Yes, this was all an overreaction. But yeah, I stressed over this for most of the year anyway.)

People & Pride: That Time Supergirl Helped My College BFF Come Out To Me (the one about Tessa)

October 4, 2018.Reading time 12 minutes.

The image reads, people and pride, with my college best friend.

Discussing the coming-out arc in Supergirl gave us a platform for a good ol’ queer bonding session.

HIMMGF — Part 12 — Waiting 2.0

September 26, 2018.Reading time 5 minutes.

Next part of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF — Part 11 — Girls and Girls, Welcome to New York

September 19, 2018.Reading time 23 minutes.

A graphic of the Statue of Liberty is the foreground of the word, New York, repeated four times.

Happy Wednesday! Here is the latest part of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 10 – Jas Arrives in America

September 12, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

A postcard graphic featuring the Gateway Arch, states, greetings from St. Louis.

Happy Wednesday! Here is the latest part of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 9 – Jas Gets A New Diagnosis

September 5, 2018.Reading time 15 minutes.

There are 3 bandaids, each with a the name of a mental illness on it, as follows. Anxiety, depression, and, B P D.

Next installment of the HIMMGF series! (There’s more to come this month!!) Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 8 – A Year Of Waiting

August 17, 2018.Reading time 8 minutes.

Next part of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 7 – S Club 7 and Ireland

July 21, 2018.Reading time 16 minutes.

A digital sketch places a girl, Jas, on a mountaintop. She faces the valley. The valley holds a large lake. The artist signature reads, J B M.

Welcome to the next installment of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 6 – Being Together IRL

July 4, 2018.Reading time 15 minutes.

In a sketch, two red telephone booths sit side by side, in front of a brick building.

Here’s the next installment of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time I Saw Lesbian Jesus IRL

June 29, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

A pride flag states, hashtag 20 gay teen.

A few weeks ago, I saw Hayley Kiyoko perform in Detroit. That’s right, I followed Lesbian Jesus to queer heaven and got baptized in her voice.

Book Review: Santa Olivia by Jacqueline Carey

June 26, 2018.Reading time 3 minutes.

Queer book review! All reviews touch on genre/plot, tropes (if any), and quality of gay content, and include spoiler and spoiler-lite versions. Check out my other book reviews! Ash | Huntress

Book Review: Huntress by Malinda Lo

June 23, 2018.Reading time 3 minutes.

Queer book review! All reviews touch on genre/pot, tropes (if any), and quality of gay content, and include both spoiler and spoiler-lite versions. Catch up on my last book review of Ash, also by Malinda Lo.

HIMMGF – Part 5 – DTW to LHR

May 20, 2018.Reading time 6 minutes.

Here’s my next installment of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time I Bonded With My Plane Passenger About Our Girlfriends

May 6, 2018.Reading time 9 minutes.

A sketch of a plane window. Outside the window has clouds and the plane wing.

I don’t have too many random interactions with strangers where we talk about my queer experience, but it does happen at times. My most unexpected encounter with such a situation happened with the 15-year-old boy I acquainted on my 8-hour flight back home.

That Time I Was Scared Of My Religious Roommate

April 19, 2018.Reading time 9 minutes.

A sketch of the bible has a rainbow streak trailing behind it.

Here is a short reflection of meeting my roommate for the first time and how the religious discussion came up. As an anxious gay, it was pretty uncomfortable.

That Time I Got Trapped In Labels

April 8, 2018.Reading time 13 minutes.

A character is surrounded by 4 labels, as follows. Label 1 states, hello my label is bisexual. Label 2 states, hello my label is lesbian. Label 3 states, hello my label is gay. Label 4 states, hello my label is queer.

Hey gang! Today I’m talking identity labels: The good, the bad, and the hardships of label navigation. Here is my (ever-changing?) label story.

HIMMGF – Part 3 – Journals, Reality Check #2, and The Leap.

April 7, 2018.Reading time 5 minutes.

A journal has two open pages, as follows. Page 1. A record cut out is taped to the page. Page 2. Text states the follows. And time is a precious thing to waste. Unless I'm wasting it on you. I can hear every word you say to me. Sometimes they get caught on the threads of my brain, replaying over again like a skipping record.

Part 3 of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time Expectations Became My Favorite Album

March 31, 2018.Reading time 5 minutes.

What kind of queer blogger would I be if I wasn’t talking about Hayley Kiyoko’s debut album? If you’re here looking for an unbiased album review, you’re in the wrong place. Here I talk about her, the album, her other songs, and about how much I love her.

How I Met My GF – Part 2 – Scrapbook plans and reality check number one.

March 20, 2018.Reading time 7 minutes.

Part 2 of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time I Watched Love, Simon

March 17, 2018.Reading time 3 minutes.

Would I really be a gay blog if I didn’t talk about Love, Simon? This post contains no plot spoilers, but some lines of dialogue re: Simon’s experience.

How I Met My GF – Part 1 – Cards Against Humanity: The Spark Starter

March 2, 2018.Reading time 4 minutes.

Part 1 of this little meeting-my-girlfriend series! Click HERE to read the prologue! Click here for all HIMMGF posts!

How I Met My GF – Prologue – The Tumblr Power Struggle

February 12, 2018.Reading time 4 minutes.

Earlier this year, my girlfriend and I celebrated 3 years together. So I’m going to tell you the story of how I found the love of my life on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean. [CW–Very brief mention of self-harm.]

That Time I Came Out to Myself

December 19, 2017.Reading time 3 minutes.

Coming out to people in your life is a never-ending and often difficult process. But coming out to yourself? It’s a crisis that starts in your childhood. You spend innocent years constructing an identity that feels like the ghost of who you really are.