Lesbian Visibility: The Crossroads of Identity

April 25, 2020.Reading time 24 minutes.

The title states, lesbian visibility week. the crossroads of identity.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Shira reveals the challenges of settling into her lesbian and Jewish identities. Read all identity posts here. When you grow up in a place like I did, there’s no room for […]

Lesbian Visibility: How to Confirm whether a Suspected Lesbian is actually a Lesbian without Ruining Everything and Having to Retire From Society

April 24, 2020.Reading time 12 minutes.

The title states, lesbian visibility week. How to conform wheter a suspected lesbian is actually a lesbian without ruining everything and having to retire from society.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Cat will simply make you laugh as a lesbian mom in a rural community tries to determine if her new neighbors are also lesbians. Read all identity posts here. Some context: I […]

Lesbian Visibility: My Path Towards Being Comfortable as a Lesbian

April 23, 2020.Reading time 15 minutes.

The title states, Lesbian visibility week. My path towards being comfortable as a lesbian.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Izzie follows a disconnect with childhood due to her lesbian journey and roots in Ireland’s Roman Catholicism. Read all identity posts here. Looking back, I never would have expected to become […]

Lesbian Visibility: Doors Unlocked And Open

April 22, 2020.Reading time 19 minutes.

The title states, lesbian visibility week. Doors unlocked and open.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Chelsea Jones, delves into the intersection of lesbian, ace, and trans identities. Read all identity posts here. First, there was silence. A long, uncomfortable silence, as thoughts were born and facial […]

Lesbian Visibility: My first step as a lesbian

April 21, 2020.Reading time 13 minutes.

The title states, lesbian visibility week. My first step as a lesbian.

For Lesbian Visibility Week, A Lesbian and Her Laptop will be releasing a series of 8 lesbian guest posts all week long! This post by Shira Jacobson describes a lesbian coming-out experience at a Jewish private school. Read all identity posts here. Whenever people ask me if I’m religious, the answer is no. Well, yes. Well […]

HIMMGF–Part 23–Friendsgiving

March 31, 2020.Reading time 12 minutes.

The image states, H I M M G F 23, friendsgiving.

Catch up on my British girlfriend’s recent trip visit to me in America! Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here. The weekend after Real Thanksgiving welcomed the new and improved Friendsgiving. The guest list included myself, Jas, my brother, my sister, her boyfriend, her boyfriend’s brother (both good friends of mine), our cousin, and […]

LGBTQ Spotlight: Support an upcoming lesbian film

March 3, 2020.Reading time 3 minutes.

A T V sketch states, Found Family, on the screen. The title of the image states, l g b t q spotlight, lesbian film by lesbian director.

In just a few days, lesbian filmmaker Esmée Lavalette begins production for her short film, “Found Family.” The film follows the protagonist, Elyse, and the challenges that come with navigating her lesbian identity in her homophobic family and meeting her long-distance girlfriend for the first time. Esmée Lavalette is a Dutch native who acquired both […]

HIMMGF 22: Coffee and Conflicts

February 18, 2020.Reading time 14 minutes.

This started as a Christmas post and ended with existential realizations. Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here. Our second Christmas together unfolded how I imagined in most ways. And it first started like every morning, the mere waking up together—something that started the day with love for 69 consecutive mornings. (Yes, 69, […]

HIMMGF–Part 21–Arrival and Thanksgiving

December 6, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

A steaming turkey is served on a plate. The title states, Brit eats Thanksgiving.

Catch up on the first two weeks into my girlfriend’s second American adventure! Read all “How I Met My Girlfriend” posts here.

“Are you sisters?” and other hetrifying reactions to WLW relationships

October 17, 2019.Reading time 15 minutes.

A graphic shows holding hands. The title states, Are you sisters? and other hetrifying reactions to WLW reationships.

Hetrify [verb]: Coined by social media influencer and artist Florence Given, to be ‘hetrified’ is to be bombarded by heteronormative narratives.

How to Dress Gay (pt. 5): Gay tees and rainbows

September 17, 2019.Reading time 12 minutes.

The Gay Dress Code wasn’t working as obviously as I’d wanted at the time, so I resorted to some obvious, but still lowkey additions to my wardrobe. (Part 5/6. Start from the beginning here.)

National Girlfriends Day

August 1, 2019.Reading time 32 minutes.

Today is National Girlfriends Day! I know I’ve shared a lot of my girlfriend, Jas, with you all already in my How I Met My Girlfriend series, but I’m sharing some more today! Like the sappy lesbian I am, I’ve saved a lot of the messages and letters we exchanged at the beginning of our […]

Am I a Predator? Inside the mind of a touch-starved queer woman

July 18, 2019.Reading time 17 minutes.

Many queer girls grow up overthinking casual touches between them and other girls for fear of these interactions being misinterpreted, misunderstood, or turned against us as part of a gross stereotype.

HIMMGF–Part 20–Waiting 3.0

July 12, 2019.Reading time 11 minutes.

A graphic flame is at the center of the image. A circle of negative space surrounds this flame.

Welcome back to “How I Met my Girlfriend!” Catch up on all the posts in this series here.

J&J Chats: Biphobia and lesbophobia in relationships

June 29, 2019.Reading time 14 minutes.

the title image states, J and J chats, biphobia and lesbophobia in relationships.

Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend). Topics sent anonymously via curious cat. Current topic: Lesbians who refuse to date bisexuals and bisexuals who refuse to date lesbians.

Lesbian Visibility: Power in Labels

April 26, 2019.Reading time 3 minutes.

A young woman with a walker stands in front of the lesbian pride flag. The image states, lesbians and their laptops, visibility week, Lauren. Power in labels.

Identity for me is something I hold dear to my heart. There’s a lot of people who won’t define themselves with aspects of who they are, but I find it extremely empowering. (By Lauren). Check out all Lesbian Visibility posts this week.

Lesbian Visibility: So Are You Actually a Lesbian?

April 25, 2019.Reading time 3 minutes.

A young woman with dark long hair stands in front of a graphic lesbian flag. The image states, lesbians and their laptops, visibility week, Courtney. So, are you actually a lesbian?

I got into my first proper relationship at 19 with a wonderful individual called Jasmine (Jimi for short). (By Courtney). Check out all Lesbian Visibility posts this week.

How to Make the Distance Work: Long-Distance Activities

April 18, 2019.Reading time 16 minutes.

Finding fun activities to do with your partner can be a big win for communication and combatting the Big Sad. Looking for new long-distance activities can be pretty bleak sometimes, so let my list of fun stuff give you some fresh ideas to try out. (5/6. Link to intro and other parts here.)

How to Make the Distance Work: Your Partner and Your Friends/Family

April 11, 2019.Reading time 15 minutes.

The image states, how to make the distance work, your partner and your friends and family.

Distance can sometimes make it difficult to keep your partner an integral member of your social circles. Encouraging a good relationship between your partner and your friends/family is a big way to keep them from feeling disconnected from your life. (3/6. Link to intro and other parts here.)

How to Make the Distance Work: A Guide

April 4, 2019.Reading time 5 minutes.

As many of you may know, my girlfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for over four years. “How do you do it?” is a question we get asked all the time. Instead of my usual shrug and “idk man idk,” I decided to blog an actual answer. Behold, the introductory post (1/6).

Queer Book Review: Coffee Will Make You Black by April Sinclair

March 21, 2019.Reading time 4 minutes.

Queer book review! All reviews touch on genre/plot, tropes (if any), and quality of gay content, and include both spoiler and spoiler-lite versions. Catch up on my last book review of Santa Olivia by Jacqueline Carey.

10 Funny Gay Tweets of the Week

March 2, 2019.Reading time 7 minutes.

Welcome to my new weekly list of funny tweets with a gay spin. Let’s see what the queer club has in store for us this week, and stay tuned for next Saturday’s compilation of some more LOLs (laughs of lesbians).

HIMMGF–Part 18–Prague Pussies

February 27, 2019.Reading time 14 minutes.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF–Part 17–Our 4-Year Anniversary

January 31, 2019.Reading time 10 minutes.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF–Part 16–Our First Christmas Together

January 14, 2019.Reading time 12 minutes.

A rainbow Christmas tree illustration has a pink star topper. Above the tree states, Make the Yuletide gay.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF — Part 15 — London Adventures Trilogy

December 26, 2018.Reading time 18 minutes.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 14 – J&J meet R&R and No Tomorrow Launch Party

December 11, 2018.Reading time 22 minutes.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to previous parts: Prologue | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12| 13

HIMMGF — Part 13 — The Great Return

November 12, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

An airline ticket states, D T W to L H R 2 point 0.

Here is the next installment of How I Met My Girlfriend! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

People & Pride: That Time Supergirl Helped My College BFF Come Out To Me (the one about Tessa)

October 4, 2018.Reading time 12 minutes.

The image reads, people and pride, with my college best friend.

Discussing the coming-out arc in Supergirl gave us a platform for a good ol’ queer bonding session.

HIMMGF – Part 10 – Jas Arrives in America

September 12, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

A postcard graphic featuring the Gateway Arch, states, greetings from St. Louis.

Happy Wednesday! Here is the latest part of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 9 – Jas Gets A New Diagnosis

September 5, 2018.Reading time 15 minutes.

There are 3 bandaids, each with a the name of a mental illness on it, as follows. Anxiety, depression, and, B P D.

Next installment of the HIMMGF series! (There’s more to come this month!!) Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 8 – A Year Of Waiting

August 17, 2018.Reading time 8 minutes.

Next part of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 7 – S Club 7 and Ireland

July 21, 2018.Reading time 16 minutes.

A digital sketch places a girl, Jas, on a mountaintop. She faces the valley. The valley holds a large lake. The artist signature reads, J B M.

Welcome to the next installment of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

HIMMGF – Part 6 – Being Together IRL

July 4, 2018.Reading time 15 minutes.

In a sketch, two red telephone booths sit side by side, in front of a brick building.

Here’s the next installment of the “How I Met My Girlfriend” series. Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time I Saw Lesbian Jesus IRL

June 29, 2018.Reading time 17 minutes.

A pride flag states, hashtag 20 gay teen.

A few weeks ago, I saw Hayley Kiyoko perform in Detroit. That’s right, I followed Lesbian Jesus to queer heaven and got baptized in her voice.

Book Review: Santa Olivia by Jacqueline Carey

June 26, 2018.Reading time 3 minutes.

Queer book review! All reviews touch on genre/plot, tropes (if any), and quality of gay content, and include spoiler and spoiler-lite versions. Check out my other book reviews! Ash | Huntress

HIMMGF – Part 3 – Journals, Reality Check #2, and The Leap.

April 7, 2018.Reading time 5 minutes.

A journal has two open pages, as follows. Page 1. A record cut out is taped to the page. Page 2. Text states the follows. And time is a precious thing to waste. Unless I'm wasting it on you. I can hear every word you say to me. Sometimes they get caught on the threads of my brain, replaying over again like a skipping record.

Part 3 of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

That Time Expectations Became My Favorite Album

March 31, 2018.Reading time 5 minutes.

What kind of queer blogger would I be if I wasn’t talking about Hayley Kiyoko’s debut album? If you’re here looking for an unbiased album review, you’re in the wrong place. Here I talk about her, the album, her other songs, and about how much I love her.

How I Met My GF – Part 2 – Scrapbook plans and reality check number one.

March 20, 2018.Reading time 7 minutes.

Part 2 of the How I Met My Girlfriend Series! Links to all HIMMGF posts here.

How I Met My GF – Prologue – The Tumblr Power Struggle

February 12, 2018.Reading time 4 minutes.

Earlier this year, my girlfriend and I celebrated 3 years together. So I’m going to tell you the story of how I found the love of my life on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean. [CW–Very brief mention of self-harm.]