Welcome to J&J Chats! A series of advice and discourse discussions from J (Jess) & J (Jas, aka, my girlfriend).
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Identity questions and coming out
- Coming out later in the relationship – Coming out as bisexual in a relationship after entering the relationship as a lesbian and vice versa.
- Should I come out to my homophobic parents? – Coming out to homophobic parents and assessing the risk.
- Bisexual or Lesbian? Plus sexism – Navigating labels and “Am I sexist for not being romantically attracted to men?”
- I was bi, but I think I could be a lesbian – Previously identifying as bisexual and trying to come to terms with the lesbian label, struggling in part due to being Asian.
Relationships
- My boyfriend has homophobic friends – A guy’s boyfriend has homophobic religious friends. How to find a compromise.
- Helping long-distance partner through a hard time – How to help a long-distance friend or partner through a difficult time for them.
Homophobia (biphobia, lesbophobia)
- Biphobia and lesbophobia in relationships – Lesbians who refuse to date bisexuals and bisexuals who refuse to date lesbians.
- Dealing with aggressive homophobia in person – Encountered an aggressive homophobic experience after holding a girlfriend’s hand in a nightclub.
- My boyfriend has homophobic friends – A guy’s boyfriend has homophobic religious friends. How to find a compromise.
- Should I come out to my homophobic parents? – Coming out to homophobic parents and assessing the risk.
Friendships
- Online friends – How to make online friends and keep a conversation going. How to build real and healthy relationships online.
- From needing support to forming friendships – “Is it possible to form true friendships based on a need for support?”
Boderline Personality Disorder
- Texting through BPD arguments – Should people text through a “bad bpd” moment or wait to call and work it out?
a lesbian and her laptop 